Sunday, June 1, 2014

True humility vs Minnesota nice

Scripture: Philippians 2:1-13

             Sometimes I long for the good old Puritan days when I could read scripture like this, do my fire and brimstone sermon about your selfish ambition and conceit, and then return to my seat and sing “Amazing Grace.” That would be so easy. Lift up Paul saying “Let the same mind be in you that was in Christ Jesus” and let that sit in your stomach and see how well you do with it. The only problem with the straightforward, law-heavy approach to this scripture is that Paul ends this rambling exhortation to good behavior by saying “it is God who is at work in you, enabling you both to will and to work for his good pleasure,” which is kind of frustrating, because it means that, in spite of all the advice Paul is giving you, the only good you will ever do is not because you’ll be able to observe the law, but because God sees fit to actually do good with you. So, you’re all sinners that will never measure up without the grace of God—yay! (I love my job)
But this is what humility is. In a world of self-sufficiency it's so backwards that we don’t quite know what to do with it. True humility—the kind that takes no credit and honestly expects nothing in return—is beyond us most of the time, even if it’s the kind of thing we hope for our children. It goes beyond the don’ts: Don’t brag. Don’t talk only about yourself. Don’t rub it in when you win. Don’t blame others when you lose. The problem for Scandinavian Lutherans is that we tend to think that since we follow the don’ts we have this one covered. We don’t brag or rub it in; we don’t often talk ourselves up or others down. Sure, we might occasional forget all this at sporting events, but for the most part we’ve got Minnesota nice covered… and Minnesota nice must pretty much be close to humble, right?
            Actually, I’m thinking no.
Every one of us has a prideful side. If you’re married, and you don’t know where your particular prideful points are, then ask your spouse. They’ll tell you. Or, failing that, ask your parents. They know. Or ask the people you have drinks with after a long day of work. The temptation is to think that because we don’t brag about the thing we do best we are not prideful at all, but that’s not how it works. Often the thing we understand the least is the thing that makes us the most stubborn. This is why everybody is an expert at economics and politics.
            Humility is absolutely not the smug righteousness of refraining from comment until after a person with whom you disagree is gone. That’s not humility; that’s more like deceit. Humility is also not believing yourself right but telling nobody. That’s closer to arrogance. True humility is actually very hard, and it requires a good deal of wisdom, because true humility is encountering something disagreeable and not just refraining from comment (or punching that person in the face) but instead seeing the humanity in what aggravates you.
            Humility is not passivity—that’s how Scandinavians tend to act: retreat to a safe distance and with safe, familiar people, then let out of all the grievances. But neither does humility mean that you can’t have an opinion and believe what you believe. Instead, the humble life suggests that true power comes not from being the loudest voice but  from being the one who quietly goes about demonstrating the love of God in the most mundane of ways. Jesus was humble not because he refrained from saying things. He said many things, among which were such classics as “I and the Father are one” and “no one comes through the Father except through me”; phrases which would not rank high on the humility meter. But what made him our example of humility was that he oriented his life not toward the powers of this world that claim that the person with the most toys wins or that life is about pleasure, instead orienting his life toward the cross, which is absolute foolishness to a prideful world.
            Modern American Christians have a problem living out a humble faith—we just do. One of the concerning trends in American Christianity is how many Christians feel they are becoming more persecuted for their faith. It's startling that Christians are more preoccupied with their own persecution than the persecutions of their neighbors who often have far less power and nobody to speak up for them. If there comes a time where a woman, or a person of color, is more likely to be persecuted for her Christian faith than for her gender or race then we can start talking about the persecution of Christians in America but, boy, are we not there yet! And it makes me ashamed to hear Christians circle the wagons around their religious rights when the very act of that right being violated is precisely where we have the opportunity to demonstrate how the Christian faith works: it bears love in persecution; not defensiveness.
            We try to wear our Christianity around our necks with little crosses or WWJD bracelets, but it doesn’t work like that. We wear the Christian faith in our self-sacrifice, but even how we think about self-sacrifice has been diluted. We tend to think of self-sacrifice as giving somebody a big tip, talking with a person who needs a friend (even though we’d rather be somewhere else), or raking somebody’s lawn. But humility is much more than doing things we dislike; true humility is taking up our crosses and following Jesus toward death—the death of our pride and even the the bodily death of our whole self.
Andy Root, in his fantastic book, The Promise of Despair: The Way of the Cross as the Way of the Church, says that we tend to make discipleship about “not lying to get a better price, not drinking or having sex in high school, claiming that you go to church in a secular environment, or hanging a piece of Christian symbolism in your work cubicle. This, we imagine, is carrying our cross; this is discipleship. But this is not discipleship. This is benign at best, and obnoxious at worst, Christian moralism. To be a disciple is to be one who follows Jesus Christ. And Jesus Christ can only be found in death, working life and possibility out of its impossibility.”
We tend to hear that kind of language as hyperbole—as if Jesus is the divine football coach, pumping us up before a game—but this is not how it is meant—not by Christ, not by Paul, or Luther who picked this up, and certainly not by Bonhoeffer who opens his famous book on The Cost of Discipleship with the line, “When Jesus Christ calls a person, he calls them to come and die.” We cheapen the gravity of what Bonhoeffer is saying, writing those words in a concentration camp in Germany, when we think this is mere spiritual death; just as we cheapen the grace of God when we believe that our baptism is merely a spiritual death (Root). No, we quite literally die in baptism. Then, we are raised from death into new life. And you will be called down that path toward death again once more when your days on earth are over.
Humility, then, is the only way of living that admits that we are going to die and accepts it as a necessary part of living. That’s a not-very-sexy slogan, but let me tell you: In weeks like the one I’ve just had—and many of you have had, too—this is the only outlook on life that offers anything worth saying. It’s the only worldview that doesn’t resort to cheap phrases like, “It’ll all be alright in the end.” To practice true humility is to say, “No, my path in life is not concerned with whether things will be alright. My path is toward the cross, which means I will die to my ego and pride, I will probably suffer, and I will maybe even come to an end much too soon.”
It’s not an easy road to walk—in fact, Paul reminds us that it will be God alone that pushes us down that path—but one way or another humility is the only defining trait worth practicing, because it is the only road that ends with love. All others turn us in ourselves. Only in admitting our own inadequacy, taking up our crosses and following, will we discover love. It’s why the life of Jesus is so attractive to us, because—at the end of the day—we want to believe it’s not all about us, because we know how inadequate we are. And if humility does win in the end and grace is true, then all this worry we have can begin to dissolve. So, maybe the Puritans were missing something after all. Maybe the love of God is found not in the harshness of the law, but in the humility of admitting we aren’t so special—not on our own. Thanks be to God for that!

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