Friday, January 28, 2011

Being Young in the Church

I'm posting this because it came up in Modern Church History. This is taken from a project I did last year on internship

Being young in the church

• What young people want is not necessarily what older people think they want.

We want to be valued, known, and appreciated for who we are. We wonder: if you won’t invest in us why should we invest in you? We don't want to be told how young we are. We get it. We know it. Take time to get to know us, listen to us, just because we are young does not mean that we have no wisdom or experience. Separate us from our family and remember what we do, what we value, what our struggles are, and ask us about us and those things about us. We tend to like Jesus, but sometimes we are disappointed and embarrassed by the church. We wish the church was more like Jesus.

• Church is a very scary place for young people to go

This is not because we don’t feel welcome but because we don’t want to stand out; we often are growing in our faith and we don’t want to have to answer questions about it. We want to ask questions; we don’t want to have to explain ourselves, because we don’t feel we have adequate answers yet. The idea of being asked to articulate our faith would scare most young people away; it’s like being called on in class, except instead of one teacher there are hundreds of teachers in the congregation and we feel like we are the only student—that everyone else understands what’s going on but we don’t.

Don’t assume we understand what is going on in communion, don’t assume we know why the pastor is wearing a robe (or not wearing a robe), don’t assume we know why we say the creeds (or don’t say the creeds). These are things that put us off—not because they are bad—but because we don’t get it. These are all things that make us separate. We don’t want to be separate; we want to understand and be included. Just because you say the service is open to all does not mean that we feel welcome, just because we say the creeds every week does not mean we feel comfortable saying these things out loud. If we are new to your church, we have no idea what anything means in worship and we are curious, but we won’t ask.

• The #1 thing that puts young people off from a church is being unauthentic.

We can smell inauthenticity from a mile away. Churches that try to change for the sake of bringing in younger members are not as attractive as churches that have younger members who have created something from within. The vision cannot be some on-high model; young people love grassroots ministry. Many of us value traditional worship, many of us value contemplative worship, many value praise-style worship. It’s a big mistake to lump all of us into the “contemporary worship” niche.

Our idea of modern worship is not the same as the generation before us—not many of us want to hear music from the 60s and 70s played by a worship band; we either want new music or traditional-sounding music. Some young people like to sing and raise their hands, many don’t. We want an atmosphere where it’s ok to experience worship in our own ways. We struggle with corporate singing—it is not a part of our society any more. The hymns may be lovely and meaningful, but we miss the beauty and the message if we cannot figure out how to sing them. We like to experience something deeper and mysterious—we tend to like Taize, Holden Evening Prayer, Matins and Compline—but many of us also don't know what the heck those are.

• We want a pastor who can relate to us

We don’t want a pastor to embarrass us. We want someone who treats us as equals, someone who values our opinions on things. The two things all pastors should know: we admire you and we are scared of you. You don’t need to know what happened on this week’s Jersey Shore, but you need to know that we have no idea who the Lone Ranger is, we weren’t alive for the Vietnam War, we don’t tend to know much about the agrarian lifestyle, and we tend to have little experience doing things with our hands (unless you’re talking about video games). But just because our generation values different things does not mean that we are all that different. Many of us are just as frustrated with our culture as you are. It doesn’t help to tell us that things were better back in your day. First, we know it’s not true. Second, it just isolates us.

We know boring when we experience it. Many sermons are long and don't relate to our lives. We don't need flashy media but if you could put a little humor into your message, pick one point and present it well that would help immensely. A short but well put-together message is more powerful than a long, theologically packed one. While you're at it, could you use language that we understand? “Eschatological” is not in our vocabularies. Let us know that God is relevant to our lives and that what happens Sunday matters on Monday.

• We are all heretics

Our beliefs will not fit into one denomination’s theological box. We respect what you believe but we are not there—not yet, at least. Our beliefs are genuine but fragile. We sometimes question everything. Science classes, even if they are taught by somebody who is Christian, make us think that religion is bogus… or they make us think that science is bogus. We tend to read the Bible as an instruction manual. We are curious about other religions and skeptical that there is only one way. We tend not to believe God would send someone to hell just because they don't believe in Jesus.

Even if our thinking is incorrect we don’t want to be told that; we want to discover it for ourselves. We often think that there is only one way to be Christian—which is either the way we grew up with or the way that our friends are Christian. We mostly don’t know what Lutherans are… or Catholics… or Non-Denoms… or any denominations for that matter.

• Many of us are post-Christian

It is a very tough thing to admit to our friends that we want anything to do with Christianity. We are told that the church is intellectually outdated. We tend to see members of the church as hypocrites and short-sighted. Also off-putting is the idea that a faith that is questioning isn't good enough... or the idea that struggles with worldly thought aren't worth it or are somehow just a passing phase. If we do attend church we will often hide it from the people we work and hang out with. We're not going to go to church just because we should go. Honestly, sometimes we get more out of hiking or sleeping or talking to a friend than we do going to church. We are craving ways to talk about our faith intelligently, but we don’t have those resources. We tend to either become true believers or atheists because we can’t put words to the struggle of faith going on inside of us.

Thursday, January 27, 2011

Hymn Bracket Preview

Life is incredibly busy. Taking two classes, playing a lot of chess, studying when I have time (for both... sometimes chess wins out), and putting together both hymn bracket and the Varieties Show. All of this is very fun and exciting.. and a lot of work. I plan on using the blog for the sake of hymn bracket in the coming month, because Blogger is one of the easiest way to post brackets online. Here are some details on what is coming.

Hymn Nominations start February 1. I'll post a link. If you are from the seminary you can do it that way, or else email me your top 10 hymns and I'll make sure they are counted. Then, the bracket is revealed and voting begins February 14.

If you need some extra motivation to participate (why you would, I don't know) there is also going to be a contest in the first four days of voting in which you can guess the Final 4, Final 2 and winner with a chance to win a copy of the Hymnal Companion to the ELW (a $75 value). Anybody can participate in the "Pick 'em" but only Luther sem students are eligible for the prize. The prize is nice, but really it's about prognostication pride.

Anyway, look for more updates. Nominations start in five days!

Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Hymn Bracket coming


Working on hymn bracket stuff. Here's a little to whet your appetite. It looks like posting the brackets to the blog is going to work really well.

Monday, January 10, 2011

(Chess) master pastor

This is a question that I keep getting as my rating inches higher and higher. Now my USCF is mid-2300s and still going up (as far as I can tell) and my FIDE is going to be up near 2200 and probably still has some catching up to do. Anyway, the question I keep getting is 'What are you going to do when you become a pastor?'

Well, the truth is I don't know. Come May I will graduate and hopefully get a call to some church somewhere, sometime soon. Who knows... and once that happens my time to continue on playing chess will be much more constrained. But here's the other part of this: I've never really traveled to play chess. I basically only play in Minnesota and occasionally adjacent areas. I feel like if I took some time off to intentionally play chess and attempt to make FM or even go after IM norms or something like that I would have a fair amount of success. Could I make IM in a year working toward it? I think I'd have a shot.

But the question I keep coming back to is: Why? Why do I care if I'm an FM, IM, GM, or just a good chess player? It'd be nice to have those titles, but it's not what I want to define myself as. I don't care if I'm remembered as a chess master, but I do think I can do some good for some people in the vocation that I am called to.

Can a person be called to be a chess player? Yes, I think so. But it's not me.

I love chess, love playing it, and I don't think I'm going to love it less even when work and family end up getting more in the way in the future. I'll still play, and I look forward to it more and more all the time. And I'm ok being "National Master" or just chess player or just Frank. Whatever. It's about the challenge, but I am always going to be a big amateur...

And that's just great.

Wednesday, January 5, 2011

Upcoming chess

To give everyone the heads up (and to advertise a little Minnesota chess), I will be playing in the following upcoming events:

Chess.mn 6th FIDE open, January 8-9
Chess Castle Championships, January 15-16
2011 Minnesota Winter Open, January 29-30
Rochester Grand Winter Open, February 4-5
2011 Minnesota Open, February 18-20

If you want any more info on any of these let me know!